Top 5 things that drive women crazy

first_img Share Tweet How many times have you heard a woman say, “Can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em!” when it comes to men? Ten? Twenty? A thousand times? No matter how much women love men (and vice versa, of course), they drive them crazy sometimes! Here are the top five things that make gals bonkers when it comes to guys.1. Trying to “fix” things instead of listening. The terrific show Modern Family addressed this common point of contention between the sexes when Phil Dunphy went to the spa and his wife Claire called him with a problem. He tried to fix it, but fortunately, the spa ladies set him straight. All she really needed (and wanted) was a sympathetic ear and some recognition for all the things that she did for her family.There are no shortcuts when it comes to being a good listener — and women can tell the difference if a man is faking it. If you’re a man who wants to be a better listener, try maintaining eye contact, reframing what she’s said to make sure you understand it, and uttering affirming statements, such as: “That must’ve been really hard,” “It sounds like you handled it very well,” or asking, “Is there anything I can do to help?” What should you do if your partner is a perennial “fixer” instead of simply listening to you? Chances are, you’ve already tried to explain why his fixation on fixing things doesn’t work for you. The next step might be to remind yourself that, despite this annoying habit, your man isn’t all bad. When it comes to dealing with his shortcomings, “the key is to focus on what you like about the person, not what you don’t like,” counsels Marc Muchnick, Ph.D., author of No More Regrets! 30 Ways to Greater Happiness and Meaning in Your Life. “What about this person is unique and special? The answers should help minimize the [impact of] annoying behaviors.”2. Behaving in a way that could be perceived as lazy or indecisive. “Women are made crazy by men that don’t ‘man up,’” says Marni Battista, expert dating coach and founder of DatingWithDignity.com. “From saying they will call and not following through to texting instead of picking up the phone to make a date, women are learning that it is less common to find a man who embodies chivalry and good, old-fashioned alpha male energy.” Women hate it when men are lazy with maintaining their personal appearance, forgetful about making plans, or avoid making decisions. And they particularly dislike it when men are emotionally passive by saying things like “I’m sorry you feel that way” instead of really apologizing when it’s called for during an argument. Ask yourself: Do I take the path of least resistance when it comes to dealing with women and with my life? If the answer is “yes,” chances are good you’re guilty of this one. Try a little harder to impress her and make her feel valued, and you might be surprised at how much happier and more fulfilling your relationship becomes. And if you’re a lady who’s dealing with a lazy dude? Pick your battles wisely. You’re not going to turn a hoodie-wearing Xbox addict into James Bond overnight. By being clear about what you expect (and by asking for realistic things, like the occasional fancy date night), you’ll see some progress. If you don’t, tell your man-child to take a hike.3. Not paying attention to her feelings. Women are emotional beings. They notice things — like stand-offish body language or the time a guy paid more attention to other women on their date — and they don’t like it. Why do men sometimes act so callously? “These [behaviors] persist because people don’t work on dealing with their issues as much as they should, and they simply leave a relationship when they’re frustrated, even though the same problems often rear their heads in the next relationship,” says Dr. Seth Meyers, a Los Angeles-based psychologist and author of Dr. Seth’s Love Prescription. In a society rich with dating options, men might think they can get away with unkind behavior; it’s up to women to tell them that they can’t. “If he drives you crazy because he’s inconsistent, uses language that puts down women, is secretive about himself after months of dating, or prefers his time alone over time with you, you’re probably better off moving on,” advises Linda R. Young, Ph.D., a psychologist and relationship coach who blogs for Psychology Today. 4. Paying too much attention to technology toys. We get it; smartphones and their attendant text messages, Twitter feeds and Facebook status updates are fascinating. But when a man spends more time looking a tiny screen instead of the face that’s right in front of him, there’s a problem. “Tell your partner what effect his behavior has on you and be specific about what you want to see [him doing] instead,” says Young. “For example: ‘When you keep texting other people while we’re having dinner, it sends the message to me that I am not your priority when we’re out together. I understand your needing to stay in touch at work during off-hours, but I think not using the phone while we’re eating dinner (barring emergency calls) is reasonable. What do you think is reasonable?’”5. Taking her for granted. A good relationship is not one in which the male half is spending most of his free time with his buddies in dives, playing video games or watching sports. If this is how you’d prefer to spend all your time, why even bother having a girlfriend? Obviously, women need to give their partners space to socialize outside of their relationship, but the key is finding a good balance. Communicate with your partner about what she feels is reasonable when it comes to deciding how you’ll both spend your time. If her expectations are completely different than yours about the amount of quality time she requires, you may not be a good match. “Overall, for a relationship to work long-term, your partner’s personality has to be one that yours meshes smoothly with,” explains Meyers. It’s the same with setting expectations.By Laura SchaeferYAHOO Dating Tips and Advice Sharing is caring! LifestyleRelationships Top 5 things that drive women crazy by: – April 26, 2012center_img Share 140 Views   no discussions Sharelast_img read more

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Purdue Recruits

first_imgIf you don’t believe going deep in the NCAA Tournament doesn’t help recruiting, then you have not followed what is taking place at Purdue University.  Matt Painter does not like McDonald’s All-Americans because they are usually “one and done” players; however, he likes to get players just below that level because they tend to stay at least 3, if not 4, years.This coming year he has red-shirt freshman Emmanuel Dowuona, a 6’10” center who went to high school in Georgia, and 3 more incoming freshmen.  They are:  Isiah Thompson of Zionsville who is a 6′ guard, Mason Gillis of New Castle, a 6’7″ small forward, and Brandon Newman, a 6’4″ shooting guard from Valporaiso.  You will notice that 3 of the 4 recruits are from Indiana and they are all on Indiana’s All-Star basketball team.They also have an inside track on getting Ebenezer Dowuona, brother of Boiler Emmanuel mentioned above.  Another possibility is LJ Cryer of Katy, Texas (Carson Edwards territory), and 2 more Indiana prospects–Trey Galloway of Culver Academy and Jaden Ivey of Mishawaka Marian.Winning late in the year definitely has its advantages.last_img read more

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Kiss wary of England forward threat

first_img Ireland assistant coach Kiss admitted both teams will have seriously considered digressing from their obvious tight driving game strengths in Saturday’s RBS 6 Nations clash at Twickenham. Forwards coach John Plumtree has whipped Ireland’s maul into devastating shape, under the ever-watchful eye of meticulous boss Joe Schmidt. “We certainly know that we have a lot more improvement in the maul, but we have worked hard to make it a real strength,” said Kiss. “And if there’s a game where we’ll find out if it is a strength it’s this one. “So there may be some variation from it from both teams, but I do think they are going to lock horns at some stage. “And it’s going to be a true forward battle that possibly determines what else happens around the field. “We’re set for that, and I’m pretty sure by the way that they’re set for it as well.” David Wilson has replaced Dan Cole at tighthead prop, the Bath front-rower still recovering from calf trouble himself. England freely admit Wilson will not last the course, with Sale’s international-level rookie Henry Thomas primed for action from the bench. Kiss warned Ireland not to expect to benefit from England’s injury issues purely as a matter of course, however. “Without a doubt losing Dan Cole is a blow but Wilson has a lot of international experience, and he scrummed well last week for Bath against Exeter,” said Kiss. “The danger for us is to take our eye off the ball there, and think that it will come easy to us – it won’t. “I don’t think any part of the game will come easy to us. “We expect the typical ferocious onslaught from an English forward pack, and the fact that they have had some changes there is something we’re not taking our eye off. “It’s not just about the scrum, their maul’s become a powerful weapon that if it’s structured well early it’s a hard thing to stop. “So you want to try to take away those opportunities as well. “And if we just get locked in the scrum and the fact that Dan Cole’s not there then we’re not doing our job properly. “There are other areas of the game where the English forward pack can hurt you and Dave Wilson can hurt you, we know that: we’ve seen it. “We’ve done the analysis on him and we’re very aware that we’ve got to be prepared ourselves in that area.” Press Association England’s “ferocious” forward pack will provide a genuine acid test for Ireland’s revamped driving maul, according to coach Les Kiss. England’s driving play has blossomed under Graham Rowntree, with Kiss expecting the two power games to collide in spectacular fashion in west London this weekend. While Kiss admits there will be thoughts in both camps of bluff and double bluff in favour of abandoning the maul for wide play, he said at some stage both teams will doubtless launch their driving tactics. “There is a chance both teams might think ‘let’s attack it a bit differently’, then fake to the maul and go elsewhere,” said Kiss. “Both teams are probably thinking about that as a strategy, but I think there is a part of this game, particularly at Twickenham, where I know England would like to draw a line in that sand in that area.” Elements of the beefed-up English and Irish mauls are noticeably similar, with the common denominator likely to be Paul O’Connell. The Ireland captain proved a vital pivot in the British and Irish Lions’ maul in Australia last summer, where Rowntree was forwards coach. Former Leicester Tigers prop Rowntree has no doubt helped England benefit from that exchange of information. And Kiss knows just how tough a challenge it will be for Ireland to exert any kind of dominance in Saturday’s tight exchanges. last_img read more

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Pochettino not playing blame game

first_img Spurs head to Hull on Sunday looking to recover from a home defeat by Stoke before the international break which left the White Hart Lane club down in 12th place. Pochettino, though, remains confident he can turn things around. Head coach Mauricio Pochettino believes no-one is ‘guilty’ for Tottenham’s indifferent start to the Barclays Premier League campaign. “We know the situation is not hard, but we need to find a solution.” Despite Spurs being jeered by their own fans during the 2-1 loss against the Potters – their fourth home defeat of the campaign – Pochettino does not feel his position is under threat. “We need to be positive, but I understand the supporters at home are not happy,” he said. “The solution is just for us to play better on the pitch, to give our supporters the message we want to improve to get success.” Pochettino added: “I have a chat every day with (chairman) Daniel (Levy) on the training ground – that is normal. “I understand football, but I always feel the support from him and the club. “This is important for me, because the people want the best for the club.” Pochettino refused to be drawn on the possible imminent arrival of Paul Mitchell, who has reportedly handed in his notice as head of recruitment at Southampton ahead of a move to White Hart Lane. “Any comments about the rumours in the media is not my job,” said the Argentinian, who left St Mary’s for north London in the summer. “(The transfers) are a club decision.” Pochettino has no issues over the decision of Eric Dier to return to Tottenham’s Enfield training complex from England Under-21 duty to spend time working on his defensive role. “For Eric, it is a good situation to play in centre-back,” Pochettino said. “When we signed him, we knew he played in the national team under-21s, that he played like a full-back. “Now I do not understand the problem, because he is happy to play at the right-back or centre-back. “We are very happy with Eric.” “My mentality is to find a solution for positive results. That is my responsibility as a head coach,” he said. “We have to make sure we analyse the tactical situations, all the football side, but we need to improve our mentality as a team, to be more strong in all aspects. I tell that to the players, like I do the media. “I have to give the tools for us to play better – this is on my shoulders.” Pochettino added: “Now is not the moment to find the guiltiness – it is a moment to be altogether, to be strong. That is our responsibility (as a club). “My responsibility is to get the results and improve the team. “Now we need to look forwards and to try to fix something which has happened in the past. We need to improve. “It is a hard job because Tottenham is a big club with big supporters. This is not how we want it to be. “But I feel that the same as before, when I was at Southampton and Espanyol. Press Associationlast_img read more

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Olesen has sympathy for McIlroy

first_imgIn a week dominated by Rory McIlroy’s ill-advised off-course activities, it was somehow fitting that Thorbjorn Olesen claimed the lead after the first round of the Aberdeen Asset Management Scottish Open. Press Association McIlroy’s worst fears were confirmed on Wednesday when he was forced to pull out of his Open Championship defence due to an ankle ligament injury suffered while playing football. And although that was described as an “unforced error” by former US Ryder Cup captain Paul Azinger, Olesen could certainly sympathise with the world number one after injuring himself getting off a camel in Dubai last year. Even three-putt bogeys on the last two holes could not dampen McDowell’s enthusiasm for a welcome return to form in the week he slipped out of the world’s top 50 for the first time in five years. McDowell’s sole top-10 finish on the European Tour this season came in February and he missed the cut when bidding for a third successive French Open title last week, a second round of 78 being his worst score in 32 rounds at Le Golf National. The 35-year-old revealed he and coach Pete Cowen had been examining videos of his swing from 2010, the year he won the US Open at Pebble Beach and holed the winning putt in the Ryder Cup at Celtic Manor. “I’m trying to get back to basics and we have narrowed my stance and used my body to swing the club how I used to,” McDowell added. “I feel as if in an attempt to improve some things in my technique, I’ve actually got worse. “It was also nice to get back on a course that gives you a few opportunities in benign conditions. I just need a few low numbers to get my belief and confidence back and today will go a long way towards that.” Rose admitted he was beginning to lose his patience after letting a number of opportunities slip, but birdied the 16th and responded to a bogey on the 17th with another birdie from 20 feet on the last. And the resulting 66 certainly justified his decision to practice at St Andrews on Monday and Tuesday this week and rely on caddie Mark Fulcher to plot a route around Gullane. ” He’s doing the hard work and making my schedule a lot easier,” Rose said. “It was a pretty stress-free round and I did not burn up too much energy out there.” Five-time major champion Phil Mickelson – who won the Open a mile down the road at Muirfield in 2013 – carding a 69 after struggling on the greens. “I was with a few mates and went on a camel and when I had to jump down I just pulled a muscle in my groin,” Olesen admitted after a flawless opening 63 at Gullane. “It took a few weeks before I could properly walk again. But that’s what happens. You’ve got to have a little bit of fun. “I know of a lot of footballers had to stop because they had groin problems. It can come any minute almost so I just keep training in the gym and keep getting results and stretching and hopefully it will not come back. ” I know Rory has very good people around him, so I’m sure he’ll get ready very soon.” Olesen, who finished sixth on his Masters debut in 2013, also discovered a tendon problem in his left hand over the winter but battled on for four events – missing the cut in the last three – before undergoing surgery at the start of February. “It’s been a tough time but I keep working on the right things and hopefully it will come,” said the 25-year-old, who lost a play-off for the Mauritius Open in May in his first event back after three months on the sidelines. “I showed today I can still shoot low rounds. “I hit almost every green – only missing the 18th – and hit a lot of fairways, which was the key.” At seven under par Olesen led by a shot from England’s Daniel Brooks, who carded a flawless 64 in the final group, with American Ryder Cup player Jimmy Walker and English trio Seve Benson, Matthew Nixon and Richard Finch among those on five under. Defending champion Justin Rose, Graeme McDowell, Rickie Fowler, Matt Kuchar were another shot back on four under as 77 of the 156-strong field broke par. last_img read more

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VIDEO: Splash Mountain boat with guests on board sinks during ride

first_imgGuests riding a Splash Mountain at Magic Kingdom took to social media to post a video of how one of the ride cars submerged underwater.One guest said they got out of the boat when it began taking on water, but a park employee told them they should have stayed in the boat.According to Fox 35, Walt Disney World confirmed that a boat took on water at the end of the ride, and that all guests got out safely.The cause of the incident is not known.so we got out of our boat because it was sinking while we were stuck there and the disney world employee decided to tell us that we should’ve stayed in the boat but it went under as soon as we all stepped out… nice #DisneyWorld #splashmountain #MagicKingdom #disney not okay???? pic.twitter.com/15zMnP1wgX— sky (@skyelaringrsoll) August 3, 2020last_img read more

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Ellsworth boys go small for regional title defense

first_imgELLSWORTH — When Peter Austin takes a look at his players, he doesn’t have to tilt his head very high.He knows his Ellsworth boys’ basketball team, which won the Class B Northern Maine title last year before losing to Lake Region in the state championship game, has a chance at another good season in 2016-17. Nevertheless, the Eagles look to be a bit “short” of the opposition this time around.“We’re an awfully small team,” Austin said. “There’s no getting around that for us. It’s going to be something we have to overcome this season.”Last year, Ellsworth’s tallest player, 6-foot-5 forward Bruce St. Peter, gave it plenty of size in its front court. He and 6-2 forward Nick Bagley, another key piece in team’s run to the regional title back in February, both graduated in June. Dylan Taplin is the Eagles’ tallest player this season, and he’s only 6-1.This is placeholder textThis is placeholder textDespite their lack of size, this year’s Ellsworth team has guard play that can match up with any team it faces. Led by junior Zach Harris and senior Bryce Harmon, the Eagles’ can shoot the lights out from anywhere on the court. Joining them in the starting lineup will be Taplin, Trent Mahon and Jared Hamilton, who’s the only one besides Taplin who’s 6 feet or taller.Well, maybe.“He’s probably only 6 foot on a good day,” Taplin said. “The good thing about our team is that everyone can shoot the 3 and create those other open shots, and we’ve worked on that for a while because we know we aren’t as tall as other teams out there.”Ellsworth’s Bryce Harmon shoots during a high school boys’ basketball scrimmage against Fryeburg Academy on Nov. 25 in Ellsworth. Harmon is one of the Eagles’ two returning starters this season. PHOTO BY MIKE MANDELLEllsworth showed off its shooting abilities in its first showcase of the year Friday by topping visiting Fryeburg Academy 88-45 in a preseason scrimmage. Although the score was kept in an unconventional manner that used a running clock and six periods of 10 minutes, Ellsworth outscored the Raiders by at least three points in each period.Harris and Harmon each made 3-pointers in the opening minutes. Mahon distributed the ball well and added outside jump shots of his own. The Eagles also got several baskets from Taplin, who made up for his height disadvantage against Fryeburg’s big men with his efficient maneuvering near the rim.“We definitely try to be crafty, and we’re going to need to do that against a lot of teams this year,” Taplin said. “That’s something I’m used to and something that the rest of these guys are used to. It’s especially true for me around the basket.”The Eagles finished last season 17-5 and won their first regional title in 28 years. Prior to their loss in the state title game, they had won 10 straight games and held their opponents to 40 points or less in the Class B tournament. The Bangor Daily News named St. Peter, who now plays college basketball at Husson University in Bangor, the Class B North tournament’s Most Valuable Player along the way.Taller players such as St. Peter are hard to come by at any level these days. Schools such as Ellsworth, which doesn’t have a particularly large enrollment size, don’t have many, and the sport of basketball in general  is trending away from the large, overpowering centers and forwards who once characterized the game. At any rate, perimeter shooting is what’s “in” right now, and the Eagles certainly have plenty of it to go around this season.“Our whole team can shoot from pretty much anywhere, and that’s not easy for some teams to do,” Harris said. “Even on our bench, guys like Sam Giffin, Andrew McCullough and Bradley Smith have huge range. As a team, that’s who we are.”For the moment, at least, Ellsworth’s shorter stature doesn’t really seem to faze any of its players. By no means is a lack of height ideal for a basketball team, but the Eagles have been well aware of their circumstances for months. They have what they have, and for Austin, the key to making their 2016-17 season a success is a rather simple one.“Make our shots,” Austin said. “I’m sure that sounds cliché, but with us, that’s what it comes down to in the end. We were pretty good at it last year, and there’s no reason we can’t be this time.”Ellsworth’s first regular-season game will be at home against the Foxcroft Ponies at 7 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 10. MPA approves golf, XC, field hockey, soccer; football, volleyball moved to spring – September 10, 2020 Latest Posts Bio Mike MandellMike Mandell is the sports editor at The Ellsworth American and Mount Desert Islander. He began working for The American in August 2016. You can reach him via email at mmandell@ellsworthamerican.com.center_img Hospice volunteers help families navigate grief and find hope – September 12, 2020 Ellsworth runners compete in virtual Boston Marathon – September 16, 2020 Latest posts by Mike Mandell (see all)last_img read more

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Guyanese cycling trio head into Pan American U-23 action on Wednesday

first_imgTHE Pan-American U-23 Elite Road Race Cycling Championships will pedal off in Mexico on Wednesday (May 1) and Guyana will be represented by the trio of Jamual John, Romello Crawford and Briton John.The trio has been in Mexico since April 19 in order to get adequate acclimatisation. The trio is expected to be joined by GCF president, Horace Burrowes, despite mandatory federation elections being almost a month over the March 31 deadline.John will be the first to get into action on Wednesday in the Time Trials which will be 33km (3 laps) on the Circuit Río de la Avenidas.Romello CrawfordJamual John is the only rider that will compete in the Time Trials. Meanwhile, Briton John and Romello Crawford will contest the U-23 Individual Road Race on Saturday (May 4). That race is set to be a distance of 132.3km (9 laps) around the Circuit Ciudad del Conocimiento, Pachuca de Soto, Hidalgo.Should any of the Guyanese cyclists manage to finish in the top 10 in the road race, they will be eligible to compete at the World Championships set for September in London.The Elite-Sub 23 Pan-American Road Championship is a collaboration among the Government of Mexico, the State of Hidalgo, the State Cycling Association and the Mexican Cycling Federation, with the Pan-American Cycling Confederation playing a pivotal role.last_img read more

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Akwa Utd, Rangers Win, FC Ifeanyiubah Concede Second Defeat

first_imgIfeanyi Ubah are rooted at the foot of the table with no point from two matched.In the second match of Match day 2, Rangers International FC defeated Lobi Stars 2-1 to record their first win of the Super Six Playoff Championship.The Makurdi team however remains second on the log on account of superior goal difference.Meanwhile, the third match of the day between Kano Pillars and Enyimba was suspended after the first half with scores at goalless draw.The match was suspended due to heavy rains with a minute of two minutes added time played.LMC has however fixed the game to resume at 9:00am this morning.MATCH-DAY 2Akwa Utd 2-1 IfeanyiUbahRangers 2-1 Lobi StarsShare this:FacebookRedditTwitterPrintPinterestEmailWhatsAppSkypeLinkedInTumblrPocketTelegram NPFL PLAYOFFAkwa United came from a goal down to condemn FC Ifeanyi Ubah to their second defeat of the ongoing Nigeria Professional Football League (NPFL) Super 6 Playoff Championship at the Agege Township Stadium in Lagos.The Promise Keepers are now on top of the table having pulled four points from two matches, while Lobi Stars and Enyimba, whose second matches come up later, are a point behind.last_img read more

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Flags with Lilies at El Clasico

first_imgDuring the 233rd El Clasico between Barcelona and Real Madrid, the camera at the stadium Camp Nou caught two flags of the Republic of Bosnia and Herzegovina.The flag with lilies was shown during the first half-time, after Luka Modrić made a foul on Leo Messi.Person who brought the flags is the former striker of Željezničar and Čelik Eldin Adilović, who published the photograph with the caption “blue paint on white canvas and six lilies embroidered in gold” on social networks.Interestingly, this is not the first time that the flag with lilies was on the Camp Nou. Exactly a year ago, in the fifth round of the Champions League the flag with lilies fluttered on the stands during the match between Barcelona and Roma.(Source: klix.ba)last_img read more

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